Its not unusual, though can be very embarrassing. There are occasions when your dick becomes all temperamental and moody and just refuses to do as desired. Whether you have had too much to drink or have ended up in bed with an intimidating woman, or are just plain tired, there are multitude of reasons that can affect your erection. No, it has nothing to do with sexual dysfunction as long as you can get it up on all other occasions.
Erectile problems are mainly psychological and if your mind is not in the act then chances are that your meat-pole will simply refuse to unfurl. However, certain psychological reasons do tend to hinder your performance in bed. Octanmen, the biggest online lifestyle magazine for men gives you guys a lowdown on why the junior sometimes refuses to rise to the occasion and do as it’s told:
You are plain drunk
Though people tend to believe that booze can help in reducing inhibitions and performance anxieties but it sizzle more than just your head. Alcohol reduces the sensitivity of the body and this can affect your erections.
Possible Solutions: So if you feel that you are about to hook up with a hot babe and chances of waking up together are pretty descent, just switch to non-alcoholic drinks halfway through the night. Who needs booze when you can get to have sex?
You're on medication
There are many everyday medicines that can hamper a man’s ability of getting an erection. Anti-anxiety and antidepressants, pain killers or cough syrups can make your thingie go cold.
Possible Solutions: If you suspect your current medication is hampering your sex life, you have to decide between recovering from your ailment or spending the night with your chick. If its sex that you choose either take a lower dose, or just go without one.
You are simply fagged out
A long hard day in the office has often been blamed for you shlong being neither hard nor long... my apologies. But if the body is feeling tired and worn out, you can be sure your dick too is reeling under its effects.
Possible Solutions: Eat. There’s nothing quite as effective as a nutritious meal to pump up your body with strength. Then take a nap and just try and relax before giving it a go. Don’t push your body because if you do that you might not be in a condition to push the real thing when you really need to.
A medical condition
Conditions like diabetes and blood pressure are the bane of modern day existence and can go a long way in screwing up your sex life. You need to stay above and in control of ailments if you desire a sex life.
Possible Solutions: Regularly visit your doctor, and take your prescribed medicine.
Caffeine & Nicotine
Cigarettes and coffee can bash up your nervous system and make it more difficult for you to achieve erections.
Possible Solutions: Cut down your caffeine and nicotine intake. It can be used as an after sex restorative.
Brain Drain
You are not able to concentrate
Have an important paper or a meeting coming up, which is making it hard for you to concentrate on anything else.
Possible Solutions: Just empty your mind and concentrate on the task at hand.
Guilt trips
Are you cheating on your current wife or girlfriend or are having sex with your girlfriend whom you are planning soon to make your ex? Or have you slept with your girlfriend’s best friend which is now making you feel really guilty. Such things can affect your overall sexual performance and are not just limited to your hard on’s.
Possible Solutions: If it’s your over active conscience getting in the way then just get over it man. Remember the 11th commandment “Innocent until discovered”
She has one hell of an attitude
A turn on for some guys, a complete turn off for most of us! She might be overly argumentative, naggy, very passive or overly aggressive or plain bossy in bed. Whatever the case she just kills the mood for making your soldier retreat into its bunker.
Possible Solutions: Take complete control. Refuse to take orders and tell her how you like it to be done. It’s really something psychological. Act like a man and she will love it. Show her who’s the boss and soldier will definitely follow the lead.
Performance anxiety
You have landed with the chick of your dreams and are unable to believe your luck. She’s so hot that instead of being turned on by her you are actually intimidated by her looks. Moreover, you could be getting nightmarish visions of marriage, kids and in-laws. If either of these two things gets in the way of your acts in bed, you are probably suffering from performance anxiety.
Possible solutions: Close your eyes and clear your mind. Sure she is pretty, but you are an awesome catch yourself. Give positive commands to your brain and wipe out the negative ones. When it comes to sex, extend the foreplay for as long as it takes for your dick to reach its peak. Engage in oral sex, talk dirty, touch her curves and caress her soft skin. And keep telling yourself that she’s just a girl not a goddess.
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